The traditional Vietnamese wedding is totally different from American and Western style, which is one of the most important rituals of Vietnamese culture influential from Confucianism and Buddhist ideology.
It is usually equipped with a considerable number of formal ritual practices, as it is not only for couple or for both families important days. In general, there are three main ceremonies:

NGO Dam (parents meet each other)

Le Dam NGO is actually a simple conference between two families. The groom’s family asks the bride’s family to be able to date the couple. The couple, likewise, before they get married would like to have time to understand each other.

In general, this conference is a chance for both families who know about talking to each other. The groom’s family does not need to bring luxury gifts. They need to bring nuts and leaf leaves. In the customs and traditions of Vietnam, flowers and leafs are considered gifts.

Le Hoi An (Engagement ceremony in Vietnam)

Vietnam strongly believe the date and time will bring the best fortune to them. This is why parents always go with the kids at fortune-tellers. If the date and time is set by the fortune-teller sets, everything goes smoothly.

Le Hoi An usually happens 1-2 weeks before the wedding ceremony. The groom’s family will visit the bride’s family with a round lacquered box known as a gift for engagement. The gifts of the unmarried are carried by a girl or a boy. The gifts include: nut and caterpillar leaves, husband / wife’s cake, Wine, tea, fruits, rice and other delicacies covered with red cloth. One of the most important gifts is a whole roasted pig, placed on a large tray.

After receiving the gift, a young couple prays in front of the bride’s altar to seek approval of their fiancé ancestors, then they will engage each other with a ring. Both families are then taken care of by the bride’s family. They enjoy the prepared party and some of the gifts are expected to be returned to the family of the fiancés for good fortune in front of the leaves of the fiance’s family.

Wedding ceremony

On the day of the wedding, the groom’s family and relatives go to the bride’s house with a lot of gifts wrapped in red paper.

These gifts are the same as those of the engagement: nut and quince leaves, husband · wife’s cake, wine, tea, fruit, rice … people holding these trays are also carefully selected, usually they are happily couples.

The bride wears a red, traditional wedding dress. Men can wear their own suits and men’s traditional costume.

After the introduction of the two families, the groom’s family seeks permission for their son to marry his bride. Ceremony master (usually respected among bride’s relatives) presents his daughter. The bride will then follow her parents. The couple should be praying at an altar before they ask their ancestors for permission for their marriage. They expressed gratitude to the parents of both bride and groom’s parents to protect them. Then they quickly bow their heads to each other to show gratitude and respect for the husband or wife. The couple receives gifts necklace, an ear ring, … a couple of wedding ceremonies now will start a new family, such as golden bracelets from each other’s family.

After the wedding ceremony, there will be a party at the groom’s house. Some traditional Vietnamese wedding parties are celebrated at their own house and the others are celebrated at the restaurant.


Today, the traditional costumes of the Vietnamese have changed. Costume replacement for men’s traditional dress. The ao dai began in the reign of Nguyen Phuc Khoat and was further refined and perfected by Vietnamese women, wearing many important festivals during the year.